Asking for help is difficult for, in our minds, it means admitting a flaw. It means removing the pretenses of perfection and becoming vulnerable to another individual. Being strong is one of those self-imposed perfections I projected on myself for some time until I realized that I’m not Ms. Be All, Know All, and Do All. I don’t have to be nor do I need to be. I remember my younger sister, Nicole, once telling me, “We can’t help if we don’t know that you need help.” A request for assistance is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength and maturity. Only those with confidence in themselves can admit that they can’t do everything on their own. Whew! I don’t have to carry my burdens alone. Nor do you. Your coworkers, family, and friends are rich resources, offering unique perspectives, expertise, ideas, and strengths. Reach out when you feel overwhelmed and let someone give you a shoulder to lean on and a hand to help you to your feet.

Regards,
Alia Henton-Williams
Director, 21st Century Program

“All the sorrow and trouble of this world is caused by unhappy people…The search for contentment is, therefore, not merely a self-benefiting act, but also a generous gift to the world.”

—Elizabeth Gilbert